This week, 6 pieces of my heart moved 1,916 miles across the country.
My sister, brother in law, and my four nieces and nephews made a big leap of faith and moved to Arizona. I’ve felt strangely numb through this whole transition, like it’s a bit of a surreal dream. But I’ve also been struggling, because for my sister and I, this was supposed to be our season. I was finally a stay at home mom like her. And she and I could do this ‘raising our kids together’ thing. Cousins as close as siblings, you know? And I’m so desperately excited for them in this new adventure but sometimes its hard being the one left back home.
Because life takes unexpected turns and there are chapters written that we never expected to be a part of our story.
And it got me thinking about how often change comes and we’re not quite ready for it:
…when a sickness diagnosis comes in and your world is upended.
…when the pregnancy test reads positive and you’re not sure how you can support another child.
…Or you walk in to work and receive a heart shattering lay off notice.
…when you’re in the thick of missions work and you’re forced out of the country by circumstances beyond your control.
…That school you were dead set on attending didn’t send you an acceptance letter and you have no plan b to fall back on.
…when your loved one dies too suddenly and you didn’t even have a chance to say goodbye.
I could go on, but the point is:
when life hits, it often hits hard and you’re left reeling in the wake of change.
And this is where the “why, God?” questions creep in… The other week at Bible Study, one of the ladies shared an excerpt from “None Like Him” by Jen Wilkin. It was so relevant to the many questions about God’s timing that have been on my heart. It’s a bit of a read, but it was all too good not to share:
“Ecclesiastes 3 tells us that he assigns “for everything… a season, and a time for every matter under heaven. But it doesn’t feel that way from a human perspective. We look at the timing of events in our lives and think that perhaps, in at least a few instances, our timeless God has temporarily checked out. “
We can readily acknowledge that there is an appropriate time for everything, but we have fairly formed opinions on when those times should be. The time to heal is any time someone is sick. The time to be silent is when i’m done speaking my mind. the time to die is at the end of a full life, not a moment before. But we see all around us that tragedy and comedy, birth and death, mourning and dancing present themselves seemingly at whatever time they choose.”
“He has made everything beautiful in its time. Also, he has put eternity into man’s heart, yet so that he cannot find out what God has done from the beginning to the end. ” Ecclesiastes 3:11
“We look around at the times and seasons and ask, “where is the beauty God is bringing from this? We expect him to make everything beautiful in our time.
But the one who determines the beginning and the end does not operate according to our timelines. “
God grows us as we trust, surrender and submit through the big and small changes that life brings. We serve a God who is both loving and sovereign, and He’s got the whole world in His hands.
“He will work all things according to his purposes. Every sorrow or harm we suffer will be redeemed for good. It sometimes takes more than one lifetime for the ugly to be made beautiful… we may die without seeing the resolution of our own plot line, whispering with our final breath that we do not understand… But this does not mean that what God is doing is not perfectly timed. The problem lies not with his timing but with our perception of it.”
The heart of man plans his way,
but the Lord establishes his steps. Proverbs 16:9
And maybe I’ve churned up more questions than answers in this post. I certainly have for myself in writing this. Can I encourage you to dig in to the Word and work through those questions? I need to do the same! If you want to chat, please reach out! Find me on Instagram or leave a comment!
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