I started to write a letter to you, “single me” from the past: the early 20’s girl who was single and figuring life out. Problem is, my first draft became painfully cliche. “live fully. Go travel. Change your hair. Date some guys and break some hearts (sorry ex boyfriends).  Take a career risk, and pour into your church, your family, your friends.”… barf. SO bad. I had to stop and delete it.

What I mean is, yes, do all those things. Life doesn’t stop when you get married, but it certainly does change. That’s a topic saved for another post though.

What I really want to communicate is above all, seek Christ.

That’s it. That’s all that matters. It’s the only lasting investment you’ll make in this life. Everything else is temporary and fleeting. Seek Him with everything you have. Do this through prayer, daily devotions, accountability, being active in your church, through serving and giving. It will set the foundation of your future. And if the Lord plans for you to marry, it will be the building block to base your marriage on. Singleness is hard, I know. The dating scene is hard too. And marriage is hard in a whole different way.

When you place two imperfect people in a covenant bond like marriage it’s bound to get messy.

 And the only way to bind it together in a way that sticks, is Christ.

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